Pick out the meanest, most violent voice that lives in your head.
The one you don’t even like to admit exists.
Pick that one.
And love it.
Just as it is.
Without qualifications or justifications.
Without requiring it to change.
Pull it in.
Hold it close.
Re-member it to the whole of who you are.
Because it is you.
It is a part of you.
A part that picked up a way of being to survive.
A part that embodied a system of oppression and abuse in order to stay alive.
And if yelling at it or only focusing on the hurt that it has caused you worked, then you would not still be dealing with it.
But you are.
It still lives and thrives.
It still breathes and feeds and says shit that hurts.
And pushing it away.
Yelling back as if it is a whole separate entity from your Self does not work.
It does not heal.
It does not create change.
All it does is embroil yourSelf deeper in a war that steals you away from the human experience you are aching for.
That voice that screams and rages and riots within you is a part of the whole of who you are.
Healing happens as you remind it, through your willingness to embrace it, that it (and by extension you) are worthy of love just as it (and you) are.
No matter what.
That doesn’t mean that you have to keep doing the same shit over and over.
It just means that as you, in your electrically whole Self, create a new groove, you get to do so without a war constantly calling you back into pain.
Want to know how to do this?
A real, actual process?
Below is what I call The Process of Loving...it will walk you through a way to love that voice and every other piece of your amazing Self.
To begin, choose a voice, a story, feeling or belief that is rattling around in your consciousness.
Choose something that feels potent right now.
You cannot pick wrong.
Close your eyelids and feel energy of that story.
Where do you feel it in your body?
Take a moment to notice.
Look at the energy in your mind’s eye.
What does it look like?
How is it showing itself to you?
Simply allow it to take shape.
It doesn’t need to make any sense.
Then, I invite you to ask this energy if there is anything it would like to tell you or anything you need to know.
Really ask...do not guess as to its answer.
Then, simply listen.
Allow the answer to come forth.
It doesn’t need to be right.
It doesn’t need to make sense.
Just let it speak.
Do not engage it in conversation.
Let it say what needs to be said and let that be it.
Now, I invite you to look at the energy and love it.
To the best of your ability, send the energy of love right to it.
Just as it is...without it having to do or be anything different.
Send love to it like you might send love to someone asking for prayers or light.
You might consider imagining holding the image in your hands or cradling it like an infant.
I often imagine a “Care Bear Stare” where I just shine love onto the image.
Send love to it until you feel complete.
Take a moment to check in and see if anything has shifted.
Just take note.
From this space, you get to know the truth.
You are here.
On purpose by your very nature.
You are here to have an amazing human experience.
Everything is created to enhance that.