When I want something…when I am aching for it.
When I feel like I will do whatever it takes to make it happen...I ask my Self a few questions:
What will having or experiencing this thing give me?
What will it make me?
Who will I be when it is mine?
Because if I can answer those questions clearly, I can see my why.
And I can stop my Self from doing something because I think it will make me worthy. Better than. Lovable. Whatever.
That fancy toy won't make me better.
Because losing weight isn't going to make me worthy.
That new, shiny business thing won't make me good.
Asking those questions gets me out of the game of trying to prove my worth.
I can look at what is really going on. I can see that some part within my Self is hurting. That some part forgot who they are. That some part within needs me. All of me. To show up. Not to fix them, but to love them. Right as they are. In pain and in pieces.
And there are plenty of times when I answer those questions and I can clearly know that the desire is MINE. It serves me and my life...and does not try to get me to prove my worth, then I move forward. I create.
I do so rooted into and nourished by a clear desire rather than a bullshit belief that I am inherently not enough.